B. Al-Shimmari your son waits for you

Dear Blogger,
I worked in a the Marine Hotel in Kuwait, I met my son, Arthur’s father in Kuwait, we where in a relationship for about a year, he was very good to me at the time, but because I was nieve I didn’t realize that he was actually a married man, which he had lied to me! In Kuwait it is very easy to conceal your real life and identity, he took me on two trips to Egypt and to London for holiday, when I flew home in 2007 from London I didn’t realize that would be the last time I see him.
He left me at 5 months pregnant with nothing, because he is a Arab from Kuwait, I could not take the chance to go back to Kuwait and put myself and my baby at risk, I am christian and never wish to be another religion, so I decided I had no choice at the time, I had to go stay with my parents….This is my story in short, in the last few years I have had e-mail contact with Arthur’s father and he said he would send me a measly 200 dollars a month, which does not even cover his school fees, I have being to the Kuwaiti Embassy in South Africa, the Ambassador said he could not help me! I have being to see a South African lawyer and they want a retainer fee of 20 000 South African Rands from me, which is allot of money!

At present life is very expensive in South Africa, my son is turning 6 years old on the 7th November, I am at my witts end trying to make ends meet every month, I would like him to pay me the child support that he owes me for the last 6 years!.

He says he will have DNA test done, but he refuses to come to South Africa to have them done, I cannot come to Kuwait and put myself or my child at risk! He does not wish to help me! I received an e-mail from him which I will send you, I am willing to sell my story to a newspaper in England and I would like to know from you if can publish my story in a newspaper in Kuwait, he cannot get away with what he has done to me! All I know is that he worked in the Kuwaiti Embassy as Head of Security and that he traveled allot for his job. He has now taken early retirement because he had a stroke in the beginning of the year, he is 53 years of age if I’m not mistaken, he comes from a family of 18 children I know his first wife’s name is Jasmin, he had 3 children with her the eldest a girl and 2 boys, his wife’s father is a very powerful man in Kuwait one of the richest he told me! His brother Mohammed, which accompanied us to Egypt is one of a twin brother from his family.

Please see e-mails to follow with photos of my son and I and of his father, Bader Mansour Mohammed Al Shammeri:

bader I am so upset, I found out you have retired, why did you lie to me! bader you sent me money last in january! you know how I struggled to live since then you know I have no job now and I dont have a car to find work, because I had my accident because I was tired comming home from work at 1 in the morning! providing for arthur! Bader you owe arthur at 1000 dollars for the last few months that you didnt send me money! bader I know you can afford it! and if you dont send the money! I will do more than just go to the embassy! I will find away to get a lawyer and sue you for child support! arthur is your son and you have to help us!
His reply:
Hi amy
I just landed in kwt today.I think u select the right way which u take me to court and i agree. 100% with u so please do ur best to proove that arther is my son and if the dna say that he is my son i will be responseible for him and make him live with me and change his relegen to be moslem.And i dont want to hear from u from today and my lawyer is waiting to hear from ur lawyer.

This is a very complicated situation for both mother and child. I hope this site can help spread the word, no man should ever leave his child behind.

American woman looking for her birth Father


Hi, your blog was recommended to me by another blog. I am hoping you will post about my story. I am an American girl who was adopted at birth. Long story short, my biological mother went to Kuwait in 1979. She came back to the US pregnant. She had a relationship with a Kuwaiti man while she was there. I have been trying to find info about her time there, and who the man was, with no luck. My birth mother is now deceased, so I cannot ask her myself about the truth. I did meet her about 13 years ago, but she lied to me about who the father was. I have recently learned that he was from Kuwait, and that’s where she got pregnant. She was his mistress, and he put her up in a place while she was there. He took care of her, and it was described that she “wanted for nothing” while she was there. I think she was living a lavish lifestyle with him.

But then she got pregnant, and he apparently brought her back to the US and left her here. Not sure if she heard from him again. She was apparently in love with him, and she was devastated that he didn’t come back for her. She gave me up for adoption, and I had no contact with her until I had an interest in locating her when I was around 19. I was in contact with her for a couple of years, and she was not truthful to me as to who my father is.

That is why I am now searching for info and trying to backtrack and trace her steps from 33 years ago. I know nothing about the man except that he was Kuwaiti, apparently wealthy and married.

Her picture is attached to this email. I am hoping that you can post it, along with my story. And someone might remember her, maybe my biological father himself. I just want answers about him and also about Judy’s time there. I don’t wish to disrupt anyone’s life, as I have a mother and father of my own who I very much love. But I can’t let this go – It’s something that adopted people have a curiosity about, and I have got to know where I came from. I just want him to know I exist, because I’m not sure that he does. I don’t want to disrupt his life, or cause embarrassment. But I do feel like I have a right to know who he was.

Her name was Judy Bordelon, and she was from Louisiana. She was in Kuwait in 1979 and she was 19 years old. My email address is mercuryruled80@gmail.com if anyone has any info.

Thank you!